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A little while ago I posted in my Hello Beautiful facebook group asking women to share with me questions they may have about boudoir. About the process, about preparing, about anything they have been wanting to know but haven’t had the opportunity to ask yet. The response was great! I received many great questions, but had to narrow it down to a few for this post, and then I will address more of them on a dedicated FAQ page on my website. So here we go!

I don’t know how pose and afraid to look funny, do you help with that?

Absolutely. In fact, every woman that comes into my studio is NOT a professional model and knows nothing about posing. And I like it that way! I direct you from start to finish, so that you don’t have to worry about whether you are doing things the “right” way. My goal is to make you feel as comfortable in your own skin as possible so the outcome is genuine, fun, and sexy.

Will my photos be posted online?

That is completely up to you! I have a few different options when it comes to the usage of photos online and in my portfolio. You have the option to have complete privacy and no photos will be shared online, you can opt to have anonymous (such as the photo below) photos only posted, or you can sign a full model release allowing me to use them on my blog, social media, and printed portfolio. No matter which option you choose, I love you just the same!

I have some stretch marks I’m not sure if I want in my pictures, what is your take on photoshop?

While my message will always be to embrace the body you have and to love the skin you are in, I completely understand the love/hate relationship that stretch marks present. I make sure to ask you ahead of time if there are any areas on your body that make you feel self conscious, or if you have blemishes/ stretch marks you are wanting to minimize/ remove in post processing. I am able to minimize most with proper posing and lighting, however if photoshop is needed I can do so.

What should I wear? Does it have to be lingerie?

This is the question I get the most and I say wear whatever makes you feel sexy! It definitely doesn’t have to be lingerie, although most opt for some form of lingerie. It can be bra and panty sets, silk robes, slips, body suits, etc. Most also bring some other form of clothing as well, such as a sweater, jersey, or their love’s favorite work shirt. Don’t stress too much about wardrobe though. I’ve had some opt for no clothing and just a bed sheet and completely rocked it! I also send you a prep guide to help you select what to bring as well as what other accessories you may want to consider (like heels, those are a must!)

I want to do a shoot, but I don’t have a significant other to do it for. Do women in this situation still do boudoir?

YES. Absolutely yes! While I agree that doing a shoot for a significant other is an awesome gift, I am more into what it does for YOU! I shoot boudoir because I love empowering women and helping them find their “sexy” again! So many of us are tired, over worked, and barely have time for ourselves at the end of the day. Most of my clients come to me with wanting to do this as a gift, yet it always becomes an even bigger gift for themselves. You don’t need the “gift” excuse to do something amazing for yourself. This is a lifetime experience that truly changes you. It changes your perspective of yourself and gives you a boost in confidence you may not have known that you needed. You definitely don’t need a significant other to bring sexy back girl!

Can I bring someone with me to my session?

Sometimes your best friend is exactly what you need to calm the nerves for your shoot! I am completely fine with a friend coming to the shoot, however I ask that they don’t interfere by telling you how to pose or adjusting hair or wardrobe. I have my stylist working with me to do that! I do ask that NO husbands/ boyfriends/ significant others attend the shoot though.

How will I get to see and select my images and products?

After your shoot, we schedule a viewing session where I reveal the images and we go through and select the ones you love. If you booked a package that includes product, we select the images to have printed. If you opted for an a la carte shoot, we will then go over the products and choose what you would like to order. I help you through the whole process! If you are one of my out of town clients, I do have the option to do this online using a password protected gallery.

That’s it for now! Do you have questions about boudoir that you would like to see answered? Please send me an email! hbboudoir@gmail.com

Michelle was one of the first women to apply for my model call this past Spring. She has been one of my most devoted fans on social media, and after reading her story I knew that she needed to do this shoot. In her entry email she talked about something that sadly a lot of women face: struggling with self esteem and having it directly effect the feeling of self worth. Not loving yourself.

I know at one point or another, we as women have all felt this way. Even the most confident at times feel unsure of themselves or feel uncomfortable in their own skin. It happens! It’s how we deal with it that has the potential to change our lives though. It is so easy to go the negative route and believe the lies you tell yourself. I mean I know for me one negative thought soon turns into a hundred more negative thoughts because in the moment it just makes sense! Surely because I can’t lose this weight I must be ugly and doomed to this body forever, right? I have stretch marks therefore I must cover them up and never wear lingerie again because they make me look ugly, right? If I were to actually say these things out loud to someone else they would say “no it’s not like that at all, you’re crazy!”. But that’s the reality of how our minds work. We go extreme. We go all out when it comes to how we view ourselves.

Let’s flip the situation a little and instead of saying these things to yourself, you say them to another woman. Not just any other woman, your friend, sister, or mother. Someone you really care about. Would you ever say those things to someone you love? If you said yes, then you might have more to worry about than just outward appearance girl! But I’m sure the majority of you would say no. Stop saying these things to yourself! Self love stops when you decide to no longer talk about yourself so badly.

Here is what Michelle had to say about her boudoir experience!

“Amber is not only a PHENOMENAL photographer, but she has an intensely radiant personality. I was so nervous, so hesitant to do the shoot that I was pretty much guaranteeing myself that I would not like any of the images. Even with an alarmingly negative mindset, the experience was just amazing.

Terri, her makeup artist, is so much fun and SO relaxing. Between these two stunning ladies, I felt rather plain from the get go……but by the end? I felt just as beautiful as they both are! Their playful manner made me relax so quickly and it soon felt like we were three old friends. I cannot stress how soothing they both were.

I was scared about my own doubt about my body. I watched both ladies carefully for signs of veiled judgement…and saw none. They saw me for who I am, not what my body looks like. Which, by the way, the pictures turned out AMAZING! Instead of walking away with NO pictures I liked, I loved each and every one of them. With the very first sneak peek that Amber shared with me, my whole view of myself changed. This experience changed my life, no joke. It made me see myself as the woman my husband sees. It, to this day – months later – makes me still feel attractive, confident, beautiful and wholly special.

I will most DEFINITELY be using Amber in the future. She is just marvelous.”

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