I don’t know who needs to hear this.. but the $h!t you go through does NOT define you. Yes, the things we go through can help shape us and strengthen us, but they are not who we are. There is much more to you than the choices you make OR the crappy things other people do to you. I know I’ve had hurts in my life that I have let define me in the past.. but no more. I am more. You are more.
This incredible woman reminded me of this. She did this shoot to help regain confidence while going through a divorce. It’s incredible how we can transform when we enter into a new headspace of our worth and what we deserve. It’s these lightbulb moments, and how we decide to love ourselves through it all, that will help create the life we truly want. She did this for herself. Take a look below to see how the photos turned out, as well as read what she had to say about her experience!
Take a look below to see how the photos turned out, as well as read what she had to say about her experience!
“I am going through a divorce after a 14 year relationship. I am now a single mother. Doing this shoot reminded me that I am beautiful and strong, and gave me the confidence to push forward. I am gaining my self respect back and won’t let myself settle. I am excited to have these pictures to look at when I am having a bad day and need a boost.”
“I had a blast during the shoot, Amber really made me comfortable and confident. She was very helpful with poses and easy to work with. Going through the finished pictures was great with her. When I was on the fence between pictures, she was great at providing insight to help make is easier! Now I want to buy more outfits and do it again.”
“For years I had wanted to do a shoot with Amber but like most I was to intimidated and thought it just wasn’t for me. I have a ton of insecurities and talked myself out of doing it because I felt like I didn’t deserve it! more like I wasn’t worthy enough to participate in one. Looking back now how insane is that?! I didn’t deserve a shoot? I didn’t deserve to feel beautiful? That’s insane right? How is it that we can uplift other women but when it comes to ourselves we don’t believe the same.
It took a long time for me to like myself let alone love myself! I’m a bigger gal and for years (since high school) I feared that’s the only way people would see me. I’m a lover, hard worker, supporter, and many other things and I have a huge tribe supporting me. The past few years I’ve had my own personal battles that i’ve had to overcome, my mom had unexpectedly passed away from breast cancer after just three months of us finding out and it took a bigger toll on my life than I ever expected. I will never take her last five days I had with her in hospice for granted! After that I was angry and confused but knew I needed to be happy again, it was just a matter of how? Amber had posted that she was looking for some models and I took that as a sign. I sent in an application and ended up getting the exciting call from her and started thinking about what to wear and when to plan it and all the fun things!
The day had come and I was so beyond nervous which now I know is so normal lol. I went and got my hair and makeup professionally done (as part of the shoot) and felt so beautiful! I cant tell you the last time I had actually felt good about myself, Courtney and I talked while she was getting me ready so it helped with the nerves then I drove over to the studio to meet up with Amber and begin the shoot. I showed her all the outfits I had chosen and told her about some of my insecurities! Ladies…I was not one to wear almost nothing let alone change in front of someone when I barely did it in front of my boyfriend. Amber got me pumped for the shoot and explained everything step by step I was instantly comfortable! I had so much fun and gained so much confidence, I wanted to keep going.
I was so nervous about getting my photos back because I didn’t think I’d even like enough to fill the album I had chosen with the package I bought. Amber reassured me I would love them and I’d be surprised at how many I actually like! Boy was she spot on!! She posted a sneak peek and I was crying happy tears, I had never seen myself in the same way she captured me in those photos! It just so happened that the time I did the shoot was my boyfriend and I’s one year anniversary so I decided to make it part of his gift even though I was nervous as hell because I didn’t know how he’d react to them. I chose my images and she mailed my album to me and he was speechless!! He kept telling me how beautiful they were. Now I can go into my next shoot with more confidence and try things I swore I’d never do. I’m so excited to walk in and kill the next one!
I wanted to write to you to remind you that you’re all beautiful. Size doesn’t matter and even if you think you can’t do it you most definitely CAN!!! Don’t hesitate if you’ve been thinking about it, even if you haven’t been thinking about it do it. I promise you that you won’t regret it and you’ll only gain from it!”
About a month ago I put out a call for women to come participate in a shoot for my everyBODY campaign. The idea behind everyBODY is to encourage women of all shapes and sizes to get off the sidelines and into a swimsuit. Every body is a swimsuit body!!! There is already so much pressure on women to look a certain way and be a certain size, and I feel this intensifies in the summer months when less clothing is required. The weather gets hot and I know some of us panic. Some of us dread putting on shorts or tank tops, let alone a swimsuit. There’s nothing to hide behind. I want to change that! Every body is beautiful and does not need to be hidden or tucked away just because it doesn’t fit the mold for society’s “ideal body type”. I want to see women loving themselves NOW. Not only when they have reached their version of the perfect body, but right now in the moment.
I brought my daughter along to this shoot and let one of my clients bring her daughter as well. I did this because it is so important to me that children see women/ their mother’s having a healthy relationship with their body image. It is important for our youth, both boys and girls, to see women of all shapes and sizes happily enjoying themselves and embracing their bodies as is. This is how we change the narrative, it starts with us! Right now, we are the definition of what is beautiful to our children. They don’t know otherwise until someone tells them otherwise- don’t let that someone be you. Let’s raise girls that are confident and don’t put a size or weight as the determining factor of their self worth. And let’s raise boys that have realistic expectations for what womanhood looks like as we age and have children.
All of the women that attended this shoot were complete strangers. They are all in different stages of their lives but wanted to come together to stand for this message. We had so much fun and some new friendships were made! This is exactly why I created this event- to not only campaign for body positivity, but to also create opportunities for women to come together and make new friends and support each other in these different stages of life. I am so incredibly proud of these women and what we created together! Make sure to get out there on the beach and by the pool this summer! If you are feeling bold enough to join the movement (which you absolutely should because I already know you look stunning in that swimsuit!!!) share a photo with us on instagram and tag me so I can see it (@ambertylerboudoir)! Also make sure to use the hashtag #everyBODY
See you on the beach!
I absolutely love the desert. Don’t get me wrong, I love living in the Northwest for the amazing mountains, pine trees, lakes, etc. and don’t plan on moving, like ever! But I also have such an appreciation for the beauty of a desert. Every time I go to Vegas one of my favorite things to do is coordinate a desert shoot. Yeah I know, who goes to Vegas to just go to the desert?! Haha. Well I did do some other fun stuff too- like go to Gordon Ramsay’s Hells Kitchen, and go on hikes, and eat entirely way too much- but this is definitely one of the highlights.
It is so refreshing to get out of your normal environment and shoot. I had never met Justina until the day of the shoot and let me tell you, she is a rockstar! She hiked up through these rocks and hills in her heels and didn’t trip once. I would have broke an ankle if I tried to do that. About a week before the shoot I had sent her a Pinterest board with some outfit inspiration and she totally nailed it! We were going for kind of a boho-retro vibe. I hope you like what we created!! Would you ever do an outdoor shoot?
A while back I was inspired by a fellow photographer to do some fresh face shoots. Fresh face shoots are where the client wears no makeup and we document them as they are. I loved this idea. Don’t get me wrong, I love makeup and what it offers women. I love to play with it and create fun new looks. I am in no way against makeup, but I really wanted to take on the challenge and be a part of normalizing being comfortable in your own skin. When I announced this, I was shocked by how many were so happy to see this- because they themselves don’t wear makeup and didn’t know it was an option to do a shoot without makeup. I want to make it very clear that you do NOT have to put on makeup to do a shoot with me! You can always, ALWAYS opt to do a shoot without makeup. In fact, I enjoyed doing this so much because it just felt so real and vulnerable. I called the series “stripped down” because I wanted the focus to truly be on the individual. To see their features, not makeup. I had them bring outfits that were simple and not distracting. I wanted their natural beauty to be what shined the most in these photos, and I think we accomplished that.
Here is what miss K said about her experience:
Something else that really stuck with me was that when she told me thank you for this experience, she thanked me for helping make her feel seen and appreciated. Which to me is SO important.. that is what all of this is about!! Here are some of my favorites from my first Stripped Down her shoot! Let me know what you think! Would you ever do a fresh faced shoot?
I am incredibly behind on sharing these glitter sessions I did last year! Yes you read that right.. Last year. I really need to get to blogging more. This was SO much fun! I seriously loved having the glitter and gem pasties as an added accessory for these shoots. Such a fun transformation! All of my clients that have done the glitter shoots said they felt like either a mermaid or Wonder Woman.. Which are both totally bad ass! Here are a few of my favorites from this shoot. What do you think? Would you love to incorporate glitter and gem pasties into your shoot?
A while back I had the opportunity to photograph a past client in her home. I was so excited for this because while I love shooting in my studio, I absolutely love getting to shoot in new environments where I can really get creative. I had seen photos of Noelle’s space so I had an idea of what to expect. Noelle has incredible style! I knew this was going to be fun.
First, before we get to the photos, I want to give you a little background info on what doing an in-home shoot is like. I know when you see these photos you are going to assume this space was flawless and Pinterest perfect on every level. I’m going to squash that myth right now. Between Noelle and her significant other, they have 8 kids. Yes, you read that right and it wasn’t a typo. 8 kids. Life can be hectic and disorganized at times. Not to mention, her youngest was just born 5 months ago. She is 5 months postpartum AND they recently moved into this house last December. Combining alllll of their stuff (yes you can imagine how much stuff there is when 10 people live in one home). I’m telling you this because you need to know that life can be messy and so can your home, but that doesn’t mean something beautiful can’t come out of it.
She messaged me the morning of and said she was a little worried because she hadn’t gotten as much organizing done as she had hoped to. Spring break had just happened and I know what my house looks like after having 3 kids home all day everyday for 2 weeks, so I completely understand the struggle. I told her to not worry, because there is an old trick called “move it out of the way for the photo” (I really tried to come up with a more clever and catchy name, but I got nothin). And that is exactly what we did. If you choose to do a shoot in your home, this trick will be used, I guarantee it. It is just part of the process. So we moved some stuff and captured some beautiful photos (well I think they are gorgeous, but I may be a little biased).
I’m telling you all of this because I don’t want you to be afraid to do a shoot in your home. I also don’t want to be a part of that voice that tells you things have to be and look perfect, because they don’t. I want you to see these photos and know that this is a busy mama (of which this was only her 2nd time being away from her 5 month old baby) who has all of the same insecurities (postpartum weight, stretch marks, messy life, etc) but chose to let me help her see the beauty through it all.
If you are interested in doing an in-home shoot, make sure to send me a note via my contact page or email me at email@example.com!
Coeur d’alene and Spokane Boudoir Photographer
Honestly, there is no better feeling than when a client comes back to me and tells me how doing a shoot with me was life changing. I know what you’re thinking, “life changing” is a little dramatic. How could doing a photo shoot in your underwear change your life? Well, technically, I don’t do anything to change their lives. I help aid in the act of changing their perception of themselves- and then THAT changes everything. It’s amazing what we are capable of when we have a little self confidence, or when someone else believes in us so much that not believing in ourselves becomes impossible.
A couple months ago I had the opportunity to photograph another photographer. She booked in on a whim. Not completely sure of herself, but sure of the fact that she wanted this experience and to give her husband an incredible gift. I totally had no clue that she was as nervous as you will soon read about. After her shoot was done and she received her images and gorgeous album, she came and left this post in my group- which left me in happy tears. This is why I do what I do. This is what I consider life changing.
“I’ve hated my body for so so long. When I lived in Hawaii my friend did a boudoir session with a photographer there but all of the photos he shared were photos of beautiful women who looked like they were paid models. I felt like I definitely didn’t fit that role anymore. I was a size 2 until about 2016, and I gained close to 70 lbs thanks to having some medical issues go undiagnosed for so long. I hated my body so much. Every day I would sit there in the mirror for 20 minutes and pick out things I hated about myself. My stomach wasn’t flat anymore, my thighs chaffed and rubbed together so much, my hips got so wide after my pregnancy my boobs were too big, etc. I was so embarrassed about my body I started resorting to really dangerous methods to try and lose weight.
I was added into this amazing group a while ago by my friend and I felt the same way here. Seeing all of you gorgeous women thinking about how beautiful you all looked in your photos and wishing I could do it too. Then I realized that there was a difference between that guy photographer in Hawaii and Amber. – He only showcased model types and Amber showcased the beauty of EVERY type of woman. I kept telling myself “If i lose x amount I’ll book a session” , “If I can get in better shape I’ll do a session”, “If I can (insert some other bogus reason here) I’ll do a session”. The only thing that got me was a lot more self loathing as the months passed by and nothing about me changed.
I finally had enough as my anniversary was coming up and I wanted to do something special for my hubby. I had no clue what to do for a present and I was on Facebook thinking about what to get him and one of Amber’s posts popped up on my timeline and I said to myself “man I wish I could do that” and I realized finally “Why the hell cant I?!” So I messaged Amber and booked that day.
The day of my session I finally got to meet the queen herself as well as the amazing Terri and I was honestly so nervous. I was nervous I’d look like a dang fool and look so stupid in front of them. I honestly contemplated cancelling an hour before. But as soon as I got there I was welcomed with a hug from Amber and I was introduced to Terri and I felt like I was home. They were so easy to talk to, they asked me what I wanted and didn’t just tell me how it was going to be. Terri worked her magic on me and honestly the entire time we were getting ready I felt like a freaking movie star or something getting pampered and having “people”.
Once it was time to actually get in front of the camera Amber didn’t give me any time to clam up. She immediately took charge and coached me into how to pose, what to do with my body and face and at first I felt a little awkward because I felt like I looked stupid. She then showed me a picture off the back of her camera and I was FLOORED at how easy it was for her to capture me in something so beautiful. After that I was just on cloud 9 the entire time. I felt like I was a super model and I was the most perfect being in the world… it’s been almost 2 months and that feeling hasn’t left me yet.
So, my moral of the story is if you’re on the fence about doing a session with Amber. Just book a dang session. Honestly if you’re like me and are waiting to be smaller or a different version of you – that’s not what this is about. This is about celebrating YOU as you are. Not how you would be down the line if you changed everything about yourself. I spent so much time hating my body – I’m so glad I finally decided to worship it.
Thank you Amber for changing my mindset and being so incredible all the time.”
Chloe, thank you so much for going against that feeling of wanting to cancel and showing up for YOU. I am so proud of what we created, you are absolutely beautiful inside and out! Thank you for sharing your personal experience.. I know there are so many women facing the same feelings and same battle as you were. My hope is that when times are tough and you are feeling down on yourself, that you remember that this person full of confidence is inside you, ALWAYS. You got this girl.
Amber Tyler, Owner/ Photographer of Hello Beautiful Boudoir | Coeur d’alene, ID
This week I had the opportunity to get away for a couple days and go to Las Vegas! While I was there, I attended a shoot led by Teri Hofford of THP Studios. Teri is a photographer I have followed for quite some time and I have always admired her work and the message behind her work. My “why” for what I do has always been in line with self- acceptance, self-love, and self- empowerment, and that fit right in with her message as well. When I saw she was offering spots for this shoot during WPPI, I had to get in on it! It just so happened to be the day after mine and my husbands anniversary (hello 10 years!!).. So I asked him if he wanted to go on a little adventure with me to Vegas so we could celebrate our anniversary AND attend this shoot. Naturally he said yes hehe.
I needed this shoot. At some point, every artist gets in a rut. A time where they feel like they have hit a creative wall. I’m not going to lie, all of January had been feeling like one giant creative rut. Maybe it was the lack of vitamin D from having no sunshine here in the PNW. Maybe it was moving into a new studio with tons of ideas and then having no creative reign in the space. Maybe it was simply because I fell into a routine and didn’t push myself creatively. I have a good feeling it was a little bit of all of the above lol! But then I came across a quote that talked about how we may not have control over the things that are happening in our lives, but we definitely have control over how we react, and ultimately we have more say in our outcome than we think. That made me take a deep look at the problems I was having. I realized that ultimately if I’m feeling like things are holding me back creatively, it was really on me. I was truly the only thing holding myself back from flourishing. I couldn’t change the problems I was having with my studio, but I could change my outlook and get creative. I couldn’t change the weather- but I could escape it for a moment! And I could definitely change my routine and push myself outside of my comfort zone. So I decided to no longer be in this rut and I booked a spot for the shoot out and booked our airline tickets. I took back control over these feelings that were seriously dragging me down!
At the shoot, we all had time to work and pose each model to get the shots we wanted. These photos are my interpretation of the shoot! I hope you enjoy them. I know I truly do! They represent so much to me, but most importantly they say “Amber got her groove back”!