I don’t know who needs to hear this.. but the $h!t you go through does NOT define you. Yes, the things we go through can help shape us and strengthen us, but they are not who we are. There is much more to you than the choices you make OR the crappy things other people do to you. I know I’ve had hurts in my life that I have let define me in the past.. but no more. I am more. You are more.
This incredible woman reminded me of this. She did this shoot to help regain confidence while going through a divorce. It’s incredible how we can transform when we enter into a new headspace of our worth and what we deserve. It’s these lightbulb moments, and how we decide to love ourselves through it all, that will help create the life we truly want. She did this for herself. Take a look below to see how the photos turned out, as well as read what she had to say about her experience!
Take a look below to see how the photos turned out, as well as read what she had to say about her experience!
“I am going through a divorce after a 14 year relationship. I am now a single mother. Doing this shoot reminded me that I am beautiful and strong, and gave me the confidence to push forward. I am gaining my self respect back and won’t let myself settle. I am excited to have these pictures to look at when I am having a bad day and need a boost.”
“I had a blast during the shoot, Amber really made me comfortable and confident. She was very helpful with poses and easy to work with. Going through the finished pictures was great with her. When I was on the fence between pictures, she was great at providing insight to help make is easier! Now I want to buy more outfits and do it again.”
“For years I had wanted to do a shoot with Amber but like most I was to intimidated and thought it just wasn’t for me. I have a ton of insecurities and talked myself out of doing it because I felt like I didn’t deserve it! more like I wasn’t worthy enough to participate in one. Looking back now how insane is that?! I didn’t deserve a shoot? I didn’t deserve to feel beautiful? That’s insane right? How is it that we can uplift other women but when it comes to ourselves we don’t believe the same.
It took a long time for me to like myself let alone love myself! I’m a bigger gal and for years (since high school) I feared that’s the only way people would see me. I’m a lover, hard worker, supporter, and many other things and I have a huge tribe supporting me. The past few years I’ve had my own personal battles that i’ve had to overcome, my mom had unexpectedly passed away from breast cancer after just three months of us finding out and it took a bigger toll on my life than I ever expected. I will never take her last five days I had with her in hospice for granted! After that I was angry and confused but knew I needed to be happy again, it was just a matter of how? Amber had posted that she was looking for some models and I took that as a sign. I sent in an application and ended up getting the exciting call from her and started thinking about what to wear and when to plan it and all the fun things!
The day had come and I was so beyond nervous which now I know is so normal lol. I went and got my hair and makeup professionally done (as part of the shoot) and felt so beautiful! I cant tell you the last time I had actually felt good about myself, Courtney and I talked while she was getting me ready so it helped with the nerves then I drove over to the studio to meet up with Amber and begin the shoot. I showed her all the outfits I had chosen and told her about some of my insecurities! Ladies…I was not one to wear almost nothing let alone change in front of someone when I barely did it in front of my boyfriend. Amber got me pumped for the shoot and explained everything step by step I was instantly comfortable! I had so much fun and gained so much confidence, I wanted to keep going.
I was so nervous about getting my photos back because I didn’t think I’d even like enough to fill the album I had chosen with the package I bought. Amber reassured me I would love them and I’d be surprised at how many I actually like! Boy was she spot on!! She posted a sneak peek and I was crying happy tears, I had never seen myself in the same way she captured me in those photos! It just so happened that the time I did the shoot was my boyfriend and I’s one year anniversary so I decided to make it part of his gift even though I was nervous as hell because I didn’t know how he’d react to them. I chose my images and she mailed my album to me and he was speechless!! He kept telling me how beautiful they were. Now I can go into my next shoot with more confidence and try things I swore I’d never do. I’m so excited to walk in and kill the next one!
I wanted to write to you to remind you that you’re all beautiful. Size doesn’t matter and even if you think you can’t do it you most definitely CAN!!! Don’t hesitate if you’ve been thinking about it, even if you haven’t been thinking about it do it. I promise you that you won’t regret it and you’ll only gain from it!”
About a month ago I put out a call for women to come participate in a shoot for my everyBODY campaign. The idea behind everyBODY is to encourage women of all shapes and sizes to get off the sidelines and into a swimsuit. Every body is a swimsuit body!!! There is already so much pressure on women to look a certain way and be a certain size, and I feel this intensifies in the summer months when less clothing is required. The weather gets hot and I know some of us panic. Some of us dread putting on shorts or tank tops, let alone a swimsuit. There’s nothing to hide behind. I want to change that! Every body is beautiful and does not need to be hidden or tucked away just because it doesn’t fit the mold for society’s “ideal body type”. I want to see women loving themselves NOW. Not only when they have reached their version of the perfect body, but right now in the moment.
I brought my daughter along to this shoot and let one of my clients bring her daughter as well. I did this because it is so important to me that children see women/ their mother’s having a healthy relationship with their body image. It is important for our youth, both boys and girls, to see women of all shapes and sizes happily enjoying themselves and embracing their bodies as is. This is how we change the narrative, it starts with us! Right now, we are the definition of what is beautiful to our children. They don’t know otherwise until someone tells them otherwise- don’t let that someone be you. Let’s raise girls that are confident and don’t put a size or weight as the determining factor of their self worth. And let’s raise boys that have realistic expectations for what womanhood looks like as we age and have children.
All of the women that attended this shoot were complete strangers. They are all in different stages of their lives but wanted to come together to stand for this message. We had so much fun and some new friendships were made! This is exactly why I created this event- to not only campaign for body positivity, but to also create opportunities for women to come together and make new friends and support each other in these different stages of life. I am so incredibly proud of these women and what we created together! Make sure to get out there on the beach and by the pool this summer! If you are feeling bold enough to join the movement (which you absolutely should because I already know you look stunning in that swimsuit!!!) share a photo with us on instagram and tag me so I can see it (@ambertylerboudoir)! Also make sure to use the hashtag #everyBODY
See you on the beach!